Opening Blog-Let's talk about BJ's

  It has been such a long time since I have watched porn.  During the high life of Racquel Darrien, and the late Savannah (may she rest in peace) was when my pussy would quiver and become moist as they stripped off their clothes on screen, their perfect, beautiful bodies alone enough to make me cum.  Watching them filled with a man, or using their oral skills to please him was sure to bring me to orgasm within a minute.  

  However, watching porn is not only pleasurable, but instructional, as well.  I have learned various oral techniques by watching how the incredible skills of the very talented ladies in XXX rated films!  I love to read books like "Tickle his Pickle" by Sadie Allison. On HBO's Real Sex, there was an episode that highlighted a blowjob class for women (I would LOVE to attend one of those!!), and showed some great techniques, and non-standard hand movements.  For instance, instead of just the up-down motion, if you twist your hands in opposite directions (think GENTLE, not indian brush burn!) while you are moving them up and down, it provides a different feel.  Also, variation is good. A good grip, varied with just running your hands up and down, tickling with your fingertips (and gently with your filed fingernails, if they are long enough) provides great pleasure for your man.  (Keep in mind, each man is different, and prefers and enjoys different things, I am merely providing suggestions...while it is good to go into the bedroom with a good...ahem...handle on things, ask your guy what he wants, i.e. "Do you like it when I do this?" "Do you want me to grip you harder?" etc, etc...I have been with a guy who LIKED me using my teeth on him, hard, while others are very sensitive to even the slightest use of teeth, for example.) 

  Suck, and be sure to use you tongue-flick, swirl, and lick the head.  Suck along the side of the cock, starting at the base, and moving along to the top.  When I use my mouth on the cock,  I vary sloppy, open mouth, and using alot of suction, to sometimes just moving it up and down, going past the head, and taking it as far in as it will go.

  LUBE is super important. When you put the cock all the way to the back of your throat, your body will naturally produce more saliva, which works very well.  Also, the absolute best lubricant I have ever used is "Astroglide".  It doesn't taste super, but, hey, let's make a few sacrifices and watch the bliss on the face of the man you are with!

   Gentle is also how you should handle the goods under the cock...the balls.  Hopefully, your man "manscapes", and trims the hair "down there" so that you don't end up with hair lodged in the back of your throat...never a fun situation.  The easiest way I have found to "teabag" a guy, is to have one testicle in your mouth, then gently slide to other one in. Suck gently, use you tongue-flick, swirl, and lick the balls.  

  As far as what I believe, the "taint" is actually where the penis starts inside the body (yeah, I know this isn't true, but it is how I think of it), and is sensitive to stimulation. Don't forget about this part during oral.  Use your thumb, or press one of your bullet vibes (ok-if you do not have one of these, STOP READING THIS RIGHT NOW AND GET ONE! My favorite-the ulimate 7th heaven from Pure Romance   https://pureromance.com/EC_ProductView.aspx?categoryID=16&pid=2427  )  against this spot. Again, ask him what he prefers-he may not want a strong vibration, or may want it less at first, then more..again, ask!  

  Liking anal play does not make a straight guy gay.  Inside the anal cavity is the only place you can provide direct stimulation to the prostate-think of this as his g-spot.  Lube and relaxation is key, and if he truly is not comfortable, don't force the issue, but most men who are brave enough to try it do find that they really do enjoy it.  All I have ever worked up to is a pinkie inside, but rimming (using your tongue and fingers on the actual asshole-make sure it is clean!) is quite enjoyable if he is resistant to actual penetration.

   VARIETY, ladies and gents, is the spice of life.  Keeping your man happy in the bedroom is very important for the entire relationship for both of you.  Withholding sex should never be a "punishment" (although using it the opposite way may work--a happy man in the bedroom is certainly more likley to agree to something you want, making you BOTH happy, which, after all, is what we want! :) )

  Up next: solo fun for the ladies-along with a list of some of my favorite toys and techniques!